It’s all bickering, and no chocolate cake…*sniff*
Bickering; Can’t I just have chocolate cake?
Rant alert I am afraid. If you don’t like em, go make a cup or tea. Bickering, I hate it, so….
…I am getting rather annoyed with my kids. Yeah, I know. I am officially a terrible mother. However, within three seconds of me picking them up from school its,
“Mummy, he said he didn’t like my voice.”
“Mummy, she pushed past me.”
“Mummy, she said I smell of poo”
“Mummy, why do you always let her go in first?”
“Mummy, he hit me.” Which is usually that he brushed past me gently trying to reach for his beaker.”
“Mummy, she snatched my book. She’ll ruin in.”
On and on and on… Aaaarrrrrggggghhhhhh.
For Christ’s sake, just stop it will you.
Give each other a break. Give ME a break. I have been working all day. I finished less than five minutes ago. And I didn’t give up my other job which I was quite good at and which paid a lot better than this to come and collect you, and have you screaming at each other, all the bl**dy time.
I have had NO wind down time from being a working person to being a “mummy, mummy, mummy” type person. I used to commute 40mins to a job. God I crave that switch over time. It’s critical for my sanity I think. Now I:
- Get up from working
- Get on my coat with about 3 minutes to spare before I am supposed to be at the school gate
- Rush out
- Nearly fall over the cat, and then the other cat, who think that because I got up its feeding time
- Frantically try and find the key which I put down in haste to get to the blasted computer to start work 6 hours earlier
- Climb into the car and reverse manically off the drive
- Zoom down the road, trying not to swear at the ever increasingly slow other drivers who don’t seem to have to be anywhere any time soon
- Park uselessly
- Run badly, and finally
- Get told off for always being last there.
I don’t need the bickering.
I need a nice cup of tea and a slice of chocolate cake.
I am sure that’s what I ordered when I got into this child rearing malarky.
Someone changed the rules. Again.
Do your kids bicker? How do you deal with it? Do you just want chocolate cake too?
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Feb 01, 2013 @ 09:08:01
I only have one which cuts down the bickering significantly
It’s the toy fighting between the husband and daughter that I have to worry about!
Jan 31, 2013 @ 18:54:22
At least now we all know that we’re not the only ones. Seems we’ve all been there. Working from home, it does seem more of a blur between the two. One day, maybe, we’ll stop rushing from work to kids, kids to house, house to bed, bed to work…. and find some us time!
Jan 31, 2013 @ 12:29:33
This made me laugh as I could so have written it about my day to day life, right down to the cat determined to trip me up as I rush out of the door! I find the ‘la la la’ not listening and fingers in ears approach can help enormously with the bickering. Only joking because I am a responsible parent who models good behaviour always of course (buffs halo vigorously)
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Jan 31, 2013 @ 14:17:14
Well buff-ed! And sometimes it does seem better to let them get on with it, occasionally they do actually manage to sort thing out! Thanks for stopping by
Jan 31, 2013 @ 11:50:29
Bickering is what siblings are all about isn’t it ?
I only realised the other day when my 2 girls, who are 6 and 8, gave each other a hug after school and went off holding hands and chatting – I thought I had been given the wrong children back !
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Jan 31, 2013 @ 14:16:22
Oh for the days when that happens to me! Fingers crossed
Thanks for dropping by Lynn.
Jan 30, 2013 @ 18:45:28
Difficult one as I have an only child! But my sister has a 7 yr old daughter and a 7 yr old step daughter and they bicker constantly!!
Not much use really am I?!
CJ x
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Jan 30, 2013 @ 20:02:20
Thanks for popping by, Crystal. And don’t worry, I’m not much use either…part of the problem it appears?!!?
Jan 29, 2013 @ 22:41:14
Bickering drives me nuts! Officially. I have a 7 year old and a 1 year old and the bickering doesn’t even make sense half the time ….. it doesn’t look like it is going to end any time soon! I am glad I am not alone!
Jan 29, 2013 @ 22:59:24
Thanks for popping over again Donna
Phew – I thought it was just me…I wish there was a bickering “off switch” In fact, sometimes just an off switch!
Jan 29, 2013 @ 14:21:16
Oh I feel your pain!! My boys are now 12 and 14 and they constantly bicker still only now they are older they are louder and more ‘hands on’ shall we say!! They are at the point that it seems they detest each other!! This makes me sad sometimes and I have written a frank post before about this. I’m clinging to the thought that as they become ‘men’ the 2 1/2 yr age gap will mean nothing and they will get on as adults……………….I’m keeping everything crossed! I so hope yours is solved with the snack situation as then you can at least for a short while enjoy that cuppa and cake LOL
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Jan 29, 2013 @ 14:31:05
Thanks for popping by Mum in Meltdown (am loving the blog name by the way). I was hoping for some respite as they get a bit older…clearly that won’t be happening! My fingers are crossed on the snack front too
Jan 29, 2013 @ 11:40:45
loved Barbaras response, makes you see the other side of the story. Could you not stop work at 2.30 and take 10 mins chill time before you leave the house?
And Alison says it gets worse as they get older. Was a standing joke in our house that the only think the older 2 girls had in common was they hated each other, and they fought like cat and dog. They would argue over a piece of mouldy cheese!!
No it is difficult, but like every other phase it passes, (usually to get worse). My lot range in age from 24 to 34 and if you get them all together like boxing day they still wind each other up and bicker “just for old times sake”
Jan 29, 2013 @ 12:11:25
Cheers, Elaine. Thanks for commenting. And I promiste you, I do always have good intentions to stop at 2.30pm, but it never quite works out!
Jan 29, 2013 @ 10:45:57
I I love this post, since it is so brazenly honest. First let me say, siblings will bicker. It goes with the territory. The trials & tribulations of working parents trying to transition from “work” to their second job, parenting, are also spelled out clear as day. What is striking about the scene to me, is that often parents do not realize that their kids are also in a transition from their 2 worlds, school & home. At school, they are in a way working at their day job. They have to follow the rules, behave, get along with the other kids & hopefully learn something in the process. They are tired & want their chocolate cake, too! Their bickering is their way of letting down their restraints.
My mother seemed to know this intuitively (& she was a working mother, too. She ran my father’s law office). She always brought treats for the whole car pool. Back then they were sugary treats, she did not know any better, but today you could get small healthy snacks. That helps with the hunger factor & gives kids something to look forward to on the ride back home. Another way to help kids transition could be to have the high & lows of the day or funniest thing that happened today conversation in the car. Thanks for sharing this, I may repost it on my blog, too!
Jan 29, 2013 @ 11:14:09
Thanks, Barbara for stopping by and commenting. Brazenly honest, that’s me! I do realise they are in transition too, just having a good old moan. We always give them a treat when we get home as well, typically dried fruit or similar – we have a healthy snack cupboad that my son regularly raids; can’t imagine what he will be like at 16 as he never stops eating now and he is only 5. I did try and bring some with me on a few occasions, but youngest was so tired that usually whatever I brought was wrong
I guess I have to survive the bickering until they reach 18, right?!?! 
P.S. Be wonderful if you do repost; remember to make it noindex if you do though, Google rules the world!
Jan 29, 2013 @ 14:48:07
What is noindex? I’m not sure I know what that means.
Jan 29, 2013 @ 09:23:39
Oh I don’t know about chocolate cake, a large glass of wine is usually in order! Mine are constantly bickering (one has Aspergers so it’s inevitable) and it drives me insane!
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Jan 29, 2013 @ 10:21:36
Hiya Jen – so with you on the glass of win as well, but can’t really get away with that straight after the school run – usually!
Thanks for commenting, love.
Jan 29, 2013 @ 09:07:55
I am hearing you loud and clear!! I am lucky in that I do have the sanctuary of an office to go to so I can wind down when I am here BUT Christmas was a total nightmare!
You would think that, with my children being older, the bickering would stop …. oh no!! It’s getting worse!!
I take myself away from the situation now, tell hubby to leave them to fight it out themselves and I go gorge on chocolate … I am sure that my weight gain is due to the very fact my kids are non-stop.
Being back at school after what seemed an endless holiday period does seem to have calmed my lot down … not long to go until half term …. aarggghhhhh!!!!
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Jan 29, 2013 @ 10:22:24
My size 16 isn’t going away anytime soon – and you are right, its a lot to do with the bickering! I hide and sneak cake from the cake cupboard too…!
Cheers for the comment.